{"id":85,"date":"2024-02-13T17:05:41","date_gmt":"2024-02-13T17:05:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/soulwaters.net\/healingwords\/?p=85"},"modified":"2024-02-13T17:05:41","modified_gmt":"2024-02-13T17:05:41","slug":"looks-consciousness-the-bane-of-modern-society","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/soulwaters.net\/healingwords\/2024\/02\/13\/looks-consciousness-the-bane-of-modern-society\/","title":{"rendered":"Looks-Consciousness \u2013 The Bane of Modern Society"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

This one takes on a rather direct & harsh tone, but that’s intentional since I really needed to drive home the point! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I usually write based on my experiences and what I\u2019ve learnt from them\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s a dig at our \u201clooks-conscious\u201d society\u2026. Hope you enjoy reading it and also learn something from it\u2026 \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So I don\u2019t know how it works in other cultures, I don\u2019t even know if this is culture specific, but it definitely happens in India.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some godforsaken aunt or a distant relative (or even a close relative), will see you after ages and the first thing they say is \u201cOMG, have you put on weight?\u201d or \u201cWhy has your skin gotten so dark\/tanned? \u201c OR \u201cWhat are those spots on your face?\u201d\u2026etc. etc. Mind you, these KIND and loving remarks are also thrown more at girls\/women than at men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At such times what happens to the person who is being sized up this way\u2026.Let\u2019s enter the mind of this person \u2013 she\/he is mostly thinking\/feeling any or all of the following \u2013<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.      OMG am I looking so terrible?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.      Am I really fat?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.      How do I get my skin back to normal?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4.      How do I go out of the house looking like this \u2013 in extreme cases<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This also results in that person\u2019s self-esteem, self-confidence and sometimes even self-belief being at an all-time low! Now while I agree that this person, has in all probability planned to learn these as their life lessons, let\u2019s not get too kind and rub those lessons in their face now!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To all the girls and even guys who\u2019ve been subject to this and have suffered, you need to remember this \u2013<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. You are god\u2019s creation just like everyone else is. And God can never make anything that\u2019s imperfect. So you are perfect in spiritual truth. Love and Respect yourself.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Accept yourself as you are, that\u2019s the best gift you can give yourself.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Remember, it\u2019s important to be healthy \u2013 whatever that means TO YOU! Your body will tell you. Each one\u2019s body is different. So tune into yours to understand it<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. It\u2019s important to be happy – again whatever that means as PER YOU!<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. The next time some aunty(or even uncle) comments on your weight or skin what you should ideally be thinking is \u2013<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    a.      When gravity doesn\u2019t have a problem with my weight who the hell are they to?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    b.      Are they paying for my food or my dermatologist and am I going over-budget? Lol<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    c.       Am I their responsibility? Because the last I knew, I wasn\u2019t!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    d.      Are they going to find me an eligible suitor? Is my marriage their headache?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    e.      What kind of a person ignores my heart, soul and intelligence and is bothered only about my appearance!<\/p>\n\n\n\n